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(162): HOW TO: Obtain a Vietnam work visa in Phnom Penh, Cambodia

Just to give you some background, I've been working (legally) in HCMC, Vietnam for more than 2 years and the school sponsors our work permit. It means to say that we just submit the necessary documents (medical certificate, photos, and notarized copy of passports) needed to renew our WP.

In my previous post I mentioned that I stayed in Phnom Penh, Cambodia for a week while waiting for my working visa. Work permit and work visa are two completely different things BUT as long as you have either of the two, you're safe :)

Disclaimer: This is solely based on my own experience.

1. In order to get a work permit, you MUST have a business (DN) visa.
2. If you have a work permit, you can either have a business visa or a work visa but the latter is optional. (Business visa is more expensive because I had to renew it every 3 or 6 months. You can get a 1 year BV but it's going to cost you an arm and a leg. My work visa is valid for a year.)

But lets get to the main topic of this post. Just read on for more details.

July 28th - I left for Phnom Penh, Cambodia at 8 in the morning. In order to get a work visa, the rule is that I must be out of Vietnam for at least 7 days and PP is the "nearest" and/or the cheapest country to visit. I paid $18 for the bus ticket.

August 4th - My manager sent me a sponsorship letter that I need to show to the Vietnam embassy in PP. It's 3-pages long and is written in Vietnamese. I'm not sure but I think the letter says that, "the school wants to hire this person, therefore you need to grant her a working visa" LOL I had to wait 1 hour to retrieve my passport.

Advantages of having a WV:
1. No need to renew your visa every 3 or 6 months. 
2. WV is a multiple entry visa. It means that you can exit and enter Vietnam anytime you want (for a year).


My manager said it should only be $135, but the guy at the embassy claimed that if the visa is rush they add 15% (not sure) from the original price. He also said that I can pay $135, BUT I need to wait 3-4 business days. There's no way I'm going to extend my stay in PP. 

By the way for others who were asking, I don't know if the price of WV is the same in other countries. I heard that it's more expensive to get a WV in the Philippines. So if you're already in Vietnam, your best bet can be Cambodia or Thailand. :)

So there you go! Those are the things I did to obtain a Vietnam working visa in Phnom Penh, Cambodia. It's as easy as 123, but the waiting game can be a pain in the ass especially if you're running out of moohlas.

Til my next blog post,
Kattie ♡

(161): Back in my shell

Hi guys! I know I’ve been MIA for the past weeks (or month). I’ve been busy with so many things. I was broke (and still am) for weeks – I spent a lot of money in Phnom Penh, Cambodia (details after this). How have you been? If you ask me, I’m grand. Broke but grand. I will get paid tomorrow and Thursday next week so looking forward to receiving more ka-ching!

So what the hell happened to me over the past weeks? Read below:

1.    I went to Phnom Penh, Cambodia on the last week of July for my working visa. So many things had happened at the time and I don’t really want to go into details because of reasons. I stayed there for a week – imagine going out of the country for a week! (hence I’m broke) I had to pay $196 for my working visa plus accommodation ($34) plus food and transportation. Glad I went through with it! Here are some photos I took during my visit:

2.    School year 2017-2018 had officially started on the 7th of August so yep I’m back to work! I work the whole day every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday and half day (in the afternoon) every Tuesday and Thursday. Not bad, right? The language centre I work at also gave me more teaching hours so starting in September I will work 6-7 hours during the weekends. I have to work 7 days a week again lol

3.    I’m seeing a French guy. I don’t really want to say “I'm dating a French guy” because dating does not exist in France (based on my research). And I don’t want to say he’s my boyfriend because there’s “no talk” about it – it just happened. I meant the kiss. I first met him on Tinder and we met in person during his 2nd day here in Vietnam. I was not expecting that our friendship will take us to the “next level”. On our third dinner together we had Filipino foods and then went to Bui Vien for drinks. I think each of us had 4 glasses of craft beer so you can say we’re kinda tipsy after that. We headed to Donkey (a famous bar in BV) and the famous French kiss happened. I have no idea how many times or how long we kissed; all I know is that we both enjoyed our time together. Three days later we met again for dinner and when I arrived he kissed me on the lips. I was like, “wait what?” I pretended I was not surprised but at the back of my head I was screaming for happiness (???????) I mean I am physically attracted with him the moment I saw him because he looks very handsome and manly (well Europeans are good looking! No doubt about it) We still see each other until now and it has now become our tradition to kiss on the lips when we arrive and leave at our meeting place. There are just two things that bother me:

a.    I don’t know if we are a couple because there’s really no talk about it but we kiss so…. I don’t know what I’m blabbing about but for me it’s not official cus we don’t talk about labels. I’m one of those people who still need to label relationships (BEEN THERE DONE THAT). I don’t know about him but whenever we go home he kisses me three times on the lips and I think that’s very romantic. BUT WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? JUST DEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP! One of these days I will have the guts to ask him the infamous question: What are we?

b.    He’s leaving for Canada then France on the last week of September and I am not sure if he’s coming back. If God hears my prayers then I’ll be lucky. If not then better luck next guy, Kattie.

It's weird and sweet at the same time how French people make a big deal about the kiss. I read that if you kiss him or vice versa, then congratulations! You are now exclusive and in a relationship. Of course that does not work for every French people, but it's kinda applicable to my situation. (What do you think?) Don't worry I'll make a separate blog post about this.

4.    Recently I’ve been watching a lot of French movies and out of 4 or 5 I have watched, there’s only 1 I liked the most. I like watching romantic comedy movies but there’s always, ALWAYS, ALWAYS (I don’t know how much more I should emphasize this) cheating/infidelity involved in the story and some of the characters SEEM ok about it. I know it’s just a movie but somehow it reflects the culture of a country (talk about the French previous presidents lol). I talked to Adrien about it and he asked me to choose between: accept it and move on or be single at 45? My answer: be single at 45. I don’t want to be a martyr for love. If you’re not happy, leave. Avoid abuse; accept annoyance. Who cares if you’re single/single mother? That’s why you work to earn money. Seriously though. Again. CULTURAL DIFFERENCES. Can’t argue with that. But I’m going to argue with the fact that cheating/infidelity is UNACCEPTABLE and I won’t tolerate it.

5.    Going back to the previous topic, I already deleted my Tinder app. My account is still there but my profile is hidden so for sure no guys will be able to check it. If you’re asking why I deleted the app, well the answer is obvious. I don’t need to meet other guys if I’m already seeing this French guy a.k.a Adrien.

6.    When it comes to being punctual, I am proud to say that I have improved. When I meet Adrien or friends, I make sure I arrive ahead of time. Also, I’ve never been late in class except the time when it was raining heavily and the Grab driver took 48 years to pick me up.

So many things had happened/have been happening around me and I’m telling you this is just a gist of my story. I really need to get my shit together and get back into writing. You have no idea how much I missed blogging. I was stressed when I came back to Vietnam because I had little money left and had to wait 3 weeks before I get paid. I still check my blog from time to time to see what’s up but I was not in the mood to blog. Now the long wait is over because I’m getting paid soon and I can spend my hard-earned money on clothes and food and whatnot (but I owe people a lot of money so….)!!

I’m guessing this has got to be one of the longest blog posts I’ve ever written. Sorry not sorry. It’s understandable since I didn’t blog for more than a month. To end this, I’m still here. Still alive and kicking! Looking forward to getting more work and $$. The future is bright and so am I :)

Til my next blog post,
Kattie ♡

(160): Is it lust or love? | Tedx Talks

I've been recently hooked up on watching Tedx Talks about dating or relationships or other stuff but this one's caught my attention (aside from John Gray's "Mars brain, Venus brain").

I'll summarize this talk by Terri Orburch and write my thoughts about it.
According to her there are 4 specific signs that differentiate lust from love:

1. Connection. When you're in love, you want your partner to connect with all the important people in your life. 

2. When you use "we" language rather than "I" language. If you were in love, you would tell me, "We went out to dinner" or "We went to the movies" rather than "I took Sandy to the movies" and "I went out to dinner".

3. Self-disclosure. Love motivates us to reveal extensive information about ourselves to this other person. When we're in love, we want to tell this other person about our dreams, about our aspirations, our goals, the past, the future. 

4. Influencing one another. When two people are in love, what one person does or wants to do, influences the other person in meaningful and strong ways. You would want to go to your partner before you make a decision. 

So if you're in a situation wherein you're confused as to what relationship you have with the other person, take a look at these signs and see for yourself.

My thoughts:

I'm on Tinder (idk why people are ashamed to admit that they use Tinder. I'm single so y not?!) but whenever I have a match I don't always message them first. Again, here goes the "if he likes me he'll send me a message" saying from yours truly which is so wrong, but still applicable for some situations. Anyway, that's beside the point. Out of all the 22 matches, I had a chat with 8 guys and 2 of them just want to have hookups. I mean, girls if you like that idea then go for it. It's just that, it's not for me. A relationship is not a relationship without sex, but I want to get to know the other person first. I want to build a connection before we jump right to bed. Lust can turn into love = that is correct. One of my friends had a hookup with someone she met on Tinder and now they're together for 4 months. I mean, hookups can turn into relationships. But then again, it's not my thing. I want to feel in love with the other person before we sleep together. Isn't it nice to have sex with the guy you love? Like, when he's on top and you look him in the eyes, you feel the deeeeeep connection. You feel the burning love inside you. Inside the both of you. Isn't it wonderful? I'm pretty sure you get the picture because it's TMI. 

To make it short, affection - love - make love. 
Hope it makes sense. Cus I'm really bad at explaining and my writing skill is getting rusty.

Til my next blog post,
Kattie ♡

(159): What I deserve is consistency

Dear girl,

No, he's not busy. No, his phone didn't die. No, he didn't forget to text you back. No, it's not that he hasn't been on his phone. No, it's not that he doesn't have service. If you're not hearing from him, that's because he has nothing to say to you. If you're not hearing from him, that's because he isn't thinking about you. If you're not hearing from him, that's because he doesn't miss you. No, it's not because he "sucks at texting back" and it's not because he doesn't call you back in 5 minutes like he says he would, but it's simply because he doesn't want to. No, it's not because he isn't receiving your texts and tells you "I never got it" when it clearly says "Delivered" right after you pressed send, but it's simply because he purposely ignores your messages and leaves you on Read or Seen. If he's not talking to you but he's able to be active on social media, that should be enough to show you that he doesn't prioritize you the way you prioritize him. Stop trying to convince yourself that you'll eventually hear from him. Stop trying to make yourself believe that there's a good reason as to why he isn't talking to you. Stop trying to force yourself to wait until he decides to make time for you. If he can't even do the little things like say good morning, ask you how your day is going, tell you about his day, and say good night to you so that you don't go to bed feeling unimportant, you need to let him go because what you deserve is consistency. 

A guy who cares
-T. Nguyen

**copied from Preach It on Facebook**